It’s still possible to finish the year strong and step into 2021 with confidence

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“The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but on significance — and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning”- Oprah Winfrey

It has been a roller coaster of a year, you have moved though new levels of chaos, confusion, uncertainty and challenge. In the beginning, you were being fueled by adrenaline just to keep your head above water. Then things started to settle, and you found your groove, even if that groove was increased hours and little time for yourself.

Now that 2021 is around the…


In my early twenties, I was exposed to the work of Napoleon Hill, who wrote the classic book, Think and Grow Rich.

In the book, Hill studied the most successful people and described 13 principles for personal and business achievement, including decision, faith, planning, persistence, and imagination.

His formula entailed six steps to clarify what you want to achieve, the amount of money you would like to acquire for this work, and a deadline for this to happen.

Part of the process was spending ten minutes daily visualizing this goal as if it was already in the present moment with…

You may have the world’s worst boss.

When it comes to self-care and energy management, you associate it with an activity you need to do. You should go for a walk, meditate, read a non-fiction book or drink more water. Now all of these are valid, and you should make sure you are ticking the basics in the following categories:

· Hydration: aim to make water your default choice of drink throughout the day.

· Nutrition: choose more whole foods rather than processed. In other words, can you see where it was made?

· Sleep: treat sleep like a meeting in your diary where you schedule at…

#4 Make your mess your message.

Resilience is the ability to survive the ups and downs of life’s challenges without taking too much of a hit. It is the mindset to get back up and keep moving forward. It is the buddy of challenge and quality to stay in the game of life.

Now, when you hear the word resilience, you tend to associate it with phrases like toughening up, grinding through, pushing forward.

In my experience as a personal development coach and trainer, I have found this approach doesn’t always work, especially in the Covid pandemic. …

That means you need to be willing to let go of the baggage holding you down.

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On my first trip to Italy with my husband, he made me a very tempting proposition — travel with hand luggage only, and you can shop on the other side.

My usual modus operandi when it comes to travel is the ‘but what if’ mentality. What if it’s cold, what if it’s warm, what if I need these shoes for a fancy dinner?

This results in a giant suitcase that adds at least an hour to the commute on either side. One small carry-on bag each meant a quicker check-in and no baggage reclaim.

My husband likes to simplify things…

The real magic happens behind the scenes, not in the highlights reel.

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Michael Jordan never felt guilty on his recovery day, where he focused solely on low-impact activities like stretching and flexibility.

Recovery is part of his success formula; by giving his body a chance to recuperate, he avoided injury and could be on top form on his game days.

We should all take a lesson from Michael Jordan and the world of professional sport. Success is not achieved only from high-impact training but a combination of high and low impact strategies.

Now you may not be a professional athlete so let’s adapt the concept to high impact and low impact productivity.

Low impact productivity vs high impact productivity.

#5 Rest is a responsibility


Before the Covid-19 pandemic, you complained that there was no work/life balance, and that’s when work and life were clearly defined.

Now that you are trying to navigate if you’re living at work or working from home, you can officially toss out the concept of balance. It was a myth then, and it’s non-existent now.

As a professional coach and trainer, I tell my clients that there is always a choice to create harmony between your work and personal life.

Harmony is fluid and looks different every day depending on what’s going on in your world. …

#8 Is that a dream or a goal? If it isn’t on the calendar, it isn’t real.


A horse whisperer is someone who has a magical ability to communicate with the animal and gain control over them. You need to adopt this same charming ability when it comes to your calendar and how you plan your time.

The calendar is not a novel concept, but in the always-on, frenetic pace of your day, common sense isn’t always common practice. When you really understand the freedom your calendar can provide, you will begin to use it differently to gain control over your days.

Let’s put this to the test:

· Is your current calendar a combination of white…

#6 Dream big but start small.


As parenting goes, I often feel like I get it wrong most days, but I knew I had nailed it this time.

My six-year-old daughter got her first pair of roller skates last weekend. We told her she needs to practice on the living room carpet to get used to balancing and get the basics correct with a softer landing.

Of course, she wanted to go straight to our driveway. Our commitment to her was to move her practice into our driveway once she has fallen ten times.

I have never seen anyone so excited about falling, and each time…

It comes down to one decision that makes 1,000 decisions.

We talk about having a disposable income, but what about having disposable energy for decision making?

When it comes to spending your money, you make considered decisions for the most desirable outcomes. It’s time to adopt the same approach to how you make decisions.

You don’t want to waste your energy on irrelevant choices and be depleted when the critical decision moments come.

The way forward is essential intent.

In his book titled Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, Greg McKeown says “essential intent” is a clear statement that is more specific and measurable than a mission statement and at the same time more inspiring than…

Lori Milner

Author. TEDx Speaker. Trainer. Coach. Mother of two. Passionate about personal growth and creating work/life harmony.

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